Being sober is more than just not using your drug of choice, whether marijuana, cocaine, alcohol, or anything else. It means being at peace with your identity as an addict, who craves the substance, but also a human with naturally good desires. The paradox of addiction is that the more we use our preferred drug, the less we get the desired effects over time. With cannabis, this is especially insidious, since it increases our dreams and ambitions while making it harder for us to realize them. Rather than idolize or demonize the drug, we should see the desire as fundamentally good, but disordered to the degree we lose control over our using, and cease to get what we want from it.